making space

floatingI have this photo set as my computer background so I can see it every day. It represents the way I want to feel in my life and in my work – relaxed, joyful, supported and free.

It also represents the space that I need to give myself in order to feel this way and be fully present in my work. When I’m stressed, tired and struggling to push through a block, I just end up feeling more stuck – which leads to frustration and anxious feelings of not-good-enough.

But when I can step away for a bit – whether it’s for a few minutes, hours or even days – I break through those blocks. Every. single. time. My brain needs space too – space to breathe, process, and look at new possibilities I might not have seen yet.

Only then can I do my best work.

A good example of this is when Jen Hofmann and I were creating our new coaching program, we were struggling to come up with a name for it. Somehow “Jen & Lisa’s awesome program” just didn’t seem right (even though it IS pretty awesome).

I was really pushing myself to come up with something clever, and it just wasn’t happening. So I took a step back. I jotted down all the words I could think of that represented the benefits of this program. In a moment of clarity, I wrote down the first letter of each word on sticky notes and shuffled them around, rearranging them over and over into something that might make sense (Scrabble, anyone?).

Then a word jumped out at me:

SPACE

Support, Productivity, Accountability, Community, and Encouragement.

Those are the key things that this program offers. It made perfect sense.

And I realized that this word was more than just an acronym – it represents a core need we all have. All the pieces of this program collectively help create space for YOU in your business.

When you’re supported, have a community to encourage you and hold you accountable, you’re going to be more productive, which naturally creates a sense of spaciousness for you.

When you give yourself that space, you’re treating yourself with the respect and love you deserve, so you can truly do your best work and be joyful while doing it. The results are astounding.

If you’d like to create a little more space for yourself in your life and business, I invite you to join us in the S.P.A.C.E. program. Click here for all the details.

You deserve it, and I promise it will be worth the trip.

Are you in LOVE with your business?

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Photo Credit: dhilung


Does it light you up every day?
Does it allow you to do the things you love, when and where you want?
Do you wake up in the morning, excited to get to work, filled with joy and enthusiasm?
Do you have FUN with your business?

Or do you feel a little stressed out…even anxious sometimes?
Do you drag yourself out of bed, especially on Monday mornings?
And you have the Sunday evening blues, in anticipation of the upcoming week…

Seriously, what kind of a life is that?

Is this what you signed up for when you went into business for yourself?
Is this why you became your own boss? To be a slave to the shoulds and have-tos?
Is this really what you wanted?

I doubt it. But let me tell you, you’re not alone.

It’s so easy to fall into that habit of doing doing doing, and never take a break. I think of the beancounter with the visor on and stern look on his face, sitting by candlelight (or computer light) working late into the night – or the pianist banging on the keys, brow furrowed, with deep intensity…until he breaks down from stress and exhaustion and cannot lift another finger to play.

Is that you? Have you and your business fallen OUT of love?

If so, you can turn it around. I promise. I promise you that your business wants to connect with you again too.

What would make you LOVE your business again?

Think really hard.

  • Why did you go into business for yourself?
  • What do you really, truly want? Time off? Freedom? Flexibility? The ability to give back? To make a difference? To save the world?
  • What lifestyle do you want?
  • How much money do you want to make?
  • How many hours do you want to work in a day, a week, a month, or even a year?
  • What support will you have?
  • Where will you work from?
  • How many clients/customers do you want to have in a month?
  • What would you love more of? Less of?

Close your eyes, and ask.

All these things, and so many more, help shape the life and the business that you want (and deserve).

Ask for what you want, and ask your business what it needs from you. Then listen.

It may sound silly, but it really does work. Think of your business as your partner, with wants and needs just like yours.

Learn to love your business again. You can do it.

This is such important, soul-filling work, and it’s HARD work. It’s often helpful to do this with someone you trust – someone who can help you brainstorm and be a sounding board as well as an accountability partner.

If you’d like some help developing your true vision, I would love to work with you privately. Click here to learn about private coaching options.

That’s MY vision. To help you live the life of your dreams. <3

What to do when you feel stuck

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Are you feeling a little stuck?

…stuck in your business
…stuck in your personal life
…stuck on achieving your goals

You feel like nothing is working – and frankly, that sucks.

Often when we’re stuck it means that we’re lacking clarity.

…of our bigger vision
…of what we’re offering
…of who we’re serving
…of what we need (or want) to do next

But when we can move forward, ever so slightly, things start to shift.

Then we experience…

…more productivity
…more clarity
…more (or better) clients
…more money
…more calm
…more time

Not sure how to get there?

Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and ask.

Ask yourself what you really want
Ask yourself what is missing in your life or business (or both)
Ask what you need to do right now

Then listen.

So much of our world is driven by our intentions and our awareness. Just the fact that you have noticed that things aren’t working is a big step toward fixing it.

And know that right now, in this very moment, everything is ok.

Remind yourself that you are enough.

Words are extremely powerful, and the words you tell yourself have a huge effect on whatever it is you intend to do.

What are you noticing today, and what one small thing can you do to move that needle in the right direction?

feeling behind at the starting line

raceWe’re a few days into 2014 now. The confetti has been swept up, noisemakers silenced, wrapping paper recycled, and 2013 is officially in the books.

So how are you feeling? You “survived” another holiday season, and you were totally ready to turn the page on the calendar and get some relief – right?

Yeah…but then comes January.

January sure is an interesting month, isn’t it? We feel this incredible need to change (read: fix) everything, all at once. We’re going to lose weight, join a gym, get organized, call friends we’ve lost touch with, get our finances in order, etc. etc. etc.

Basically we’re going to fix everything that we think is broken so we can do everything RIGHT. Oh, and we need to do it all NOW. There’s no time to waste.

We’re all excited for a fresh start but as soon as the ball drops we jump right into the pit of Guilt, Scarcity, and Not Enough. With both feet.

It’s no wonder we feel behind on everything. I get it. I have those moments too.

We can blame this on our drive to succeed, to compete, and to be perfect. To some, it’s a total adrenaline rush. But the thing is, we can’t sustain that energy. Before we know it, we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and 100% defeated. That feels pretty crappy, doesn’t it?

We feel like a complete failure and we’re not even a week in.

The other night my son and I were discussing New Year’s resolutions, and why we as a society feel like we have to wait until January 1 to make changes in our lives. His feeling is that when someone is motivated to do something, they don’t need to wait for a date on the calendar to get started. They just do it.

I get that. And sure, there’s some truth to it. If we’re truly motivated, why do we need to wait until January 1st to get started?

It’s the same reason we say “next week I’ll start exercising again”, or “next month I’ll have more time”, or “after I get through _______ I’ll be able to do ______.”

That date in the future, the clean fresh page on our calendar…symbolizes a fresh start, clean slate, a new beginning. It feels good. And when we miss it and fall short on all our wild goals, it feels bad.

But here’s the thing. No matter what your calendar says today, and no matter how you feel about it, it’s not too late (or too early) to make a change.

You are not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be at this moment in time. You might not be where you WANT to be or where you EXPECTED to be, but there are reasons for that that are not always obvious to us.

Maybe you’re just not quite ready for whatever that thing is.

Maybe there’s something better in store for you if you wait a bit.

Maybe there’s a basic need for safety, or there’s indecision, fear, or something completely beyond your control that you can’t even see.

Whatever it is, trust it. Trust that the right things will happen at the right time.

But that also doesn’t mean you can sit back and wait for things to happen. You still need to do the work. If you’re struggling, some simple planning and setting attainable goals will help you feel more clear. This will help define your path, and when you get discouraged you can look back and see the progress you’ve made.

When you take the time to plan ahead you’ll feel SO much more relaxed and on top of things than when you just fly by the seat of your pants. It’s the difference between being reactive vs. proactive.

If you’d like some support with this, I have a few remaining spots for one-on-one coaching in January. We can talk about where you are in your business right now, where you want to be, and the steps you can take to get there. If you’re interested, sign up here.

You are not behind. I promise.