We’re a few days into the new year now. The confetti has been swept up, noisemakers silenced, wrapping paper recycled, and last year is officially in the books.
So how are you feeling? You “survived” another holiday season, and you were totally ready to turn the page on the calendar and get some relief – right?
Yeah…but then comes January.
January sure is an interesting month, isn’t it? We feel this incredible need to change (read: fix) everything, all at once. We’re going to lose weight, join a gym, get organized, call friends we’ve lost touch with, get our finances in order, etc. etc. etc.
Basically we’re going to fix everything that we think is broken so we can do everything RIGHT. Oh, and we need to do it all NOW. There’s no time to waste.
We’re all excited for a fresh start but as soon as the ball drops we jump right into the pit of Guilt, Scarcity, and Not Enough. With both feet.
It’s no wonder we feel behind on everything. I get it. I have those moments too.
We can blame this on our drive to succeed, to compete, and to be perfect. To some, it’s a total adrenaline rush. But the thing is, we can’t sustain that energy. Before we know it, we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and 100% defeated. That feels pretty crappy, doesn’t it?
We feel like a complete failure and we’re not even a week in.
The other night my son and I were discussing New Year’s resolutions, and why we as a society feel like we have to wait until January 1 to make changes in our lives. His feeling is that when someone is motivated to do something, they don’t need to wait for a date on the calendar to get started. They just do it.
I get that. And sure, there’s some truth to it. If we’re truly motivated, why do we need to wait until January 1st to get started?
It’s the same reason we say “next week I’ll start exercising again”, or “next month I’ll have more time”, or “after I get through _______ I’ll be able to do ______.”
That date in the future, the clean fresh page on our calendar…symbolizes a fresh start, clean slate, a new beginning. It feels good. And when we miss it and fall short on all our wild goals, it feels bad.
But here’s the thing. No matter what your calendar says today, and no matter how you feel about it, it’s not too late (or too early) to make a change.
You are not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be at this moment in time. You might not be where you WANT to be or where you EXPECTED to be, but there are reasons for that that are not always obvious to us.
Maybe you’re just not quite ready for whatever that thing is.
Maybe there’s something better in store for you if you wait a bit.
Maybe there’s a basic need for safety, or there’s indecision, fear, or something completely beyond your control that you can’t even see.
Whatever it is, trust it. Trust that the right things will happen at the right time.
But that also doesn’t mean you can sit back and wait for things to happen. You still need to do the work. If you’re struggling, some simple planning and setting attainable goals will help you feel more clear. This will help define your path, and when you get discouraged you can look back and see the progress you’ve made.
When you take the time to plan ahead you’ll feel SO much more relaxed and on top of things than when you just fly by the seat of your pants. It’s the difference between being reactive vs. proactive.
You are not behind. I promise.