Is Someone Getting the Best of You?

If you ever need a good kick-ass “get your butt in gear” song, this is one of my favorites. “Getting the best of” someone can mean getting under someone’s skin, or defeating them, as it does in the song. But it can also mean quite literally, “the best of”. The best you can give. As creative entrepreneurs, we tend to want to give our best on everything and quickly get overwhelmed (you know how that is, don’t you?).

I fall into that trap more times than I care to admit. It’s because I care. I want people to be happy and fulfilled, but it tends to backfire. I feel pretty stretched sometimes – managing a growing business isn’t easy, especially when you combine that with balancing family needs and the many tasks that come with our day to day lives. It can get overwhelming really fast. We do our best to keep up, still feeling like we’re not doing enough. What usually hums along starts to cough and skip, and things fall through the cracks.

Charlie told me in that he detected “some fret” in a recent email – I actually laughed out loud at that, because it felt like such a huge understatement! And it got me to thinking – what am I providing to those who are important to me? When we’re caught up in the day to day, spinning on that hamster wheel, we’re cheating ourselves and everyone around us. Our significant others. Our children. Our clients. Our friends. Everyone.

Nobody is getting the “best of you” when you’re operating at half capacity.

So what do we do to fill our cup back up?

I’ve been hearing a lot about self care and forgiveness lately. Little messages whispered in my ear via my inbox or feed. It’s that little voice that keeps reminding me to stop what I’m doing and listen.

These messages are gentle reminders that rest and play is important. Let me repeat that in case you missed it. Rest and play is important. Self-care is always last on my list – and I know I’m not alone. But why? Really. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. A great workout, a cup of tea in early morning silence, a blissful hour alone on the mountain.

Great work requires all of your focus, so I’m doing my best to concentrate on being present – fully present – in each moment. Minimizing distractions so I can stop multi-tasking and give 100% to the most important thing at that moment. Whether that’s my creative work, my family, or even just my quiet thoughts.

What are you doing to fill your cup today, so you can give the best of you? I’d love it if you would share in the comments.

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“Mr. Atlas” photo credit: Phillipe Put

  • Well, nothing yet… BUT I whole heartedly agree! Generally I go for a run or play with my dogs.

    Let’s face it, sometimes you just have to stop, if only for a minute or two and give yourself a break!

    • Yolanda, I’m starting to get back into running because exercise is SO good for clearing the head. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  • Great post Lisa! I definitely struggle with the overwhelm of spinning too many plates. When one crashes to the ground I blame myself for not managing things better. But I need to take it as a sign to put some of those plates aside. As I add plates, I have to take some away. I’m going to SXSW to have fun and recharge and meet people instead of hang out in my home office. And I have vowed to do “almost” no work. I still need to keep one or two of those plates spinning but it will be refreshing to put some down for 5 days. Thanks for a great post!

    • Andrea, thanks for stopping by! I think you’ll be “working” more than you think at SXSW. Just remember to be kind to yourself when managing all those spinning plates when you get back. 😉

  • Filling my cup lately is adding in a daily dose of quality time with the Divine. It dawned on me suddenly that if I feel depleted, doing something *regularly* might be a good idea. Simple and also profoundly helpful.

    Knowing that you and other commenters are on the path too gives me hope and courage to continue. Thanks!

    • Yes, Jen, routine is key for me. I try to carve out some quiet time every day – it really does help. I’m glad you’re able to get that time in too. 🙂

  • Well said Lisa, I couldn’t agree more! When you feel stress or frustration, you can’t keep it from seeping into your work and most things you do throughout the day. That’s how it works for me. So self care is one of my top priorities. And there is no guilt about it, because when I feel great, its reflected in my work and the beautiful thing is my clients and family all benefit from me practicing self care.

    And like you and the commenters said — self care doesn’t have to be some major thing you do and often its a matter of perspective and appreciation. When I feel like I’m not being appreciated or respected, I’ll take some to time reflect on how I’ve given whatever it is I’m lacking in my day to myself – simple things like petting the dog, making myself a nice lunch, taking a moment to appreciate the birds outside my window. These are all small moments of self care that we often overlook and when I take a moment to realize I’m already practicing self care – it puts me back into positive 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    • Hi Lisa! What a treat to have you here. 🙂

      “When I feel like I’m not being appreciated or respected, I’ll take some to time reflect on how I’ve given whatever it is I’m lacking in my day to myself…”

      That’s a great way to look at it. This morning I’m looking out the window at fresh snow sparkling in the sunshine…with chai tea in hand. These moments really do make a difference..

      Thanks for sharing!

  • Ahhh, perfect timing (Ash Wednesday) to read such a lovely post. It recently (re)occurred to me that I have a lot of output (care of others) which is steeply in “un” balance with input. Re-reminds me that we can’t give what we don’t have to Our Everyone. Thanks to Charlie for nudging me over to your blog.

    • Annie, that is so true for so many people. Simply noticing that imbalance is the first step to righting the ship.

      Thanks so much for joining in our conversation. I’m glad you found your way over here. 🙂

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