Self-improvement (or self-development) is about exploring, discovering new things, and working to expand your knowledge base and skillset. I’m a life-long learner, so I’m always researching, practicing, and trying new things.
But I have a big problem with self-improvement, and here’s why:
Early on in my own self-development journey I noticed that the more books I read on self-improvement and the more classes, newsletters, etc. I signed up for, the more unsettled I felt – and the less content I was with me. I began to feel like I was never going to find the one thing that would help be the person I thought I was supposed to be.
“Self-improvement” was making me unhappy.
It’s natural to want to stretch yourself, to learn new things, or to practice a skill with the intent of achieving mastery. This is how we grow, and life would be pretty boring if we didn’t, wouldn’t it?
That said, if you’re searching for something that will make you better than you are because you believe there’s something you need to FIX, you’re barking up the wrong tree.
The real problem with self-improvement is that it ignores the fact that you are already enough – and I know it sounds cliché – but there is nothing wrong with you just the way you are.
What would it be like to truly believe that you already ARE perfect? That there’s nothing to fix? How would it feel to approach self-development as play, rather than a project where the results define your value?
Can you experiment with that for a while? A day, week, month? Learn and practice because you WANT to, not because you feel you have to. Be a sponge – absorb the possibilities rather than feeling defeated because you just. can’t. get. to. it. all.
I invite you to play. Have fun with it. Be you.